It is humbling to be on this side of our adoption journey, almost 1 year from the day we sent our first email to our adoption agency. Praise Jesus, that he sustained us to keep pushing through and continuing on this journey.
When David and I decided to start the adoption process, we felt very intimidated. Once it became clear to us that we would become parents through adoption, we wondered if we could ever really do it. First of all, the paperwork aspect of it is like another full-time job.
Then we realized our perceptions of adoptive families and the honest truth that we just don’t measure up to the standards we had set in our minds. We feel so normal and perceived adoptive parents as “super spiritual.” Meaning that they seem to have such strong marriages, spot on parenting skills, balanced home and work lives, and joy that keeps them full even in the hardest times. They seem to have perfect integration of their children’s birth culture into their family life. Woah- they have really got this thing down!
We feel so normal, if that. We aren’t perfect church attendees, regular in our quiet times, and we don’t always turn to God first. We get mad at each other and fight sometimes. We both have a lot to learn about marriage and about loving each other. I won’t lie, there were multiple points in the last year when we looked at each other and asked, “Who are we? What are we doing? And we think we can parent a child we adopt?”
Well, we’ve cracked it. After talking to real adoptive families, reading some reliable books, listening to podcasts, completing training sessions, and a lot of soul-searching- we’ve figured it out! Social media home life does not equal real home life. In any family, adoptive or biological, parenting and marriage takes hard work but is doable.
It's a simple truth, I know, but one that is taking time for us to actually accept. It’s okay that we are an “average Joe couple”, God has still called us to adopt and parent. He has clearly written this story thus far- and he’s going to keep guiding us through.
So if anyone is considering adoption but feels intimidated by it or the persona that comes to mind when you think of becoming an adoptive parent- you are not alone! Join the club. In fact, let's make a club!
Pursuing what God is leading us to do is always the right choice, even if it's the hard choice. All along the way God has clearly shown us validation that He is trustworthy and sovereign, and that he is making a way for us to adopt. Let me share with you about what God has done and how he's has shown us that he has already written our family's story.
At 10 months into the adoption process, we got the best news of our lives! In late June, we were matched with our DAUGHTER!
She is in the loving care of a foster family and should be around two years old when we bring her home next spring or summer. There are strict rules which prevent us from posting her photo electronically. However, when we meet in person, feel free to ask me or David and we will proudly show you her picture!
Throughout this journey, God has shown us over and over again that he has planned for us to adopt our daughter. He has clearly made a way for this to happen…
Almost seven years ago I returned home from volunteering in Thailand for 7 months. I remember feeling like something in me was left unfinished and searching deep to figure out what that was. I remember sharing with close friends and family that I felt God was leaving a door open but also that I should return to Georgia and pursue my career… now I think we have found where that door was leading.
Five summers ago, David and I were dating and both working at a camp for children who had been adopted or who were in foster care. We left that week in tears and confident that one day we would adopt. Little did we know that this wasn’t just a “camp high”.
Before knowing that we would adopt for sure, I got a job that offers adoption assistance for about a fourth of the financial cost of adoption.
We bought our house before we decided to begin the adoption process. At that time, David was considering looking for a new job. Little did we know only a few months later he would make a career change to become a teacher and would work at the high school we are zoned for- less than two miles from home!
The estimated timeline for each part of the adoption process so far has been MUCH shorter than expected. For example, initially we were told that we would be matched with our little one in December 2018, but we surprisingly got matched in June 2018!
Once we heard that our timeline for matching may move up from December to June, we aggressively started fundraising and applying for grants. This was great news, but meant that we would need to meet a big financial goal 6 months earlier than we had expected! Well...we have been awarded a couple of grants and have almost completed fundraising for them. We are BLOWN away by the support from everyone. People from our childhoods, hometowns, former and current workplaces and churches, family, and friends have all come forward and offered us so much support through prayers, encouragement, and financial donations. We are so grateful.
Our prayer from the beginning has been that God would provide our child with someone to respond to his or her cries and someone to attach to. Well, since before we even started praying God was already going before us. Our daughter is in foster care and with consistent caregivers. What an amazing answer to prayer.
When we started this adoption process, we decided that once we brought our child home I should work part-time. That way we can maintain benefits from my work, and our child will have maximum time with us for attachment and other needs. Earlier this summer, a part-time position came open at my work and I jumped for it. Although it was many months before we planned for me to work part-time, it is the right job for our future needs. At the time I accepted this job we didn’t know if we would be waiting to be matched with our child until December or if it would happen sooner. We were literally “living on a prayer”. One week after I accepted this new position, we got matched with our daughter. If that isn’t validating, I don’t know what is!
Over the past couple of months, our adoption journey has moved at roller coaster speed and good things keep happening. We have found ourselves asking questions like, “Why us!? What have we done to deserve this?” We hear God respond with, “Nothing. You have done nothing to deserve this. This is a gift I am giving you... it's grace.”
And if by grace, then it cannot be based on works; if it were, grace would no longer be grace. Romans 11:6 niv
We are experiencing grace in a new way. We are recipients of God’s grace of course through salvation, but also by becoming parents of our sweet, beautiful little girl.
I understand that grace is being given something that you don’t deserve. We are so utterly undeserving and so deeply grateful. Now this gracious gift has a name, a face, a birthday, and a gorgeous smile. We can’t wait to hold her in our arms!
We know this journey has barely even begun, so we'll keep trusting and following God along the way...
Please enjoy our original songs.
For the past couple of years, we have been processing our marriage and adoption journey through songwriting. We have recorded these songs so that we can share them with others. We look forward to one day sharing our songs with our little one. In the meantime, we hope this music helps raise awareness and encourages others to consider and support adoption. Also, we will earn a little bit of money with each download and stream that will go toward our adoption. Our songs are available on Spotify and YouTube. Here is the info:
Artist Name: The Floyds & The Rockafellers
Album Name: Baby Elephant
Spotify Link to our song "Letter to our Little One": https://youtu.be/l-q1WR1yZec
~ Meet David & Joanna Floyd ~
We met in 2012 while both working at a camp for adults with special needs. We lived in Savannah for a couple years and have been in the Atlanta area for two years. We just celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary. David is a high school special education teacher and I am a child life specialist at a children's hospital. We enjoy cooking and making music together. We are in the process of adopting our first child and hope to bring her home in the spring or summer of 2019!