A Lifetime of Givers by Joyce Abernathy

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For the past few days, I have been pondering the word giver.  A giver is someone who gives to others.  I have been richly blessed as the receiver of gifts from many givers in the past.  The givers were family, friends, acquaintances and even strangers.  And the gifts I was given included love, prayers, encouragement, time and sometimes material gifts.

In my ponderings, I recalled some of those givers.  One was an older gentleman my family met at the little corner store in our neighborhood when I was about four years old. He became my substitute grandfather, who I called Granddaddy Johnson. 

And the insurance salesman who witnessed to my Dad for several years and eventually led Daddy to the Lord, when I was about 7 years old.  I also remember my Dad as a giver, especially when he would occasionally surprise me with a candy bar from the vending machine at the GM plant where he worked the night shift.

There was my 6th-grade teacher who cared enough to give me some encouraging advice. My first year in high school, my older brother who was in the Army volunteered to pay for my school yearbook when my parents were not able to afford the extra expense.

I have come to realize it is not the nature or size of the gift that really matters, but the heart of the giver.
— Joyce Abernathy
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Much later after I was married and had four children, there was an amazing group of anonymous givers who replaced the leaky roof on our home while we were out of town for a couple of days.

There were many more givers in my life and I thank God for them all. I have come to realize it is not the nature or size of the gift that really matters, but the heart of the giver.

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Meet Joyce Abernathy

Joyce Abernathy has been married to her husband Dana for almost 40 years. They have four grown children and five grandchildren. She just recently retired after working as an elementary school secretary for 20 years. She enjoys spending time with family and friends and learning new craft skills. 

Be a Giver of Love by Dana Charbonneau

Giver- one who gives, the amount of bending that something undergoes.

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I have always thought of myself as a giver, one who wants to give to other people.  But as I pondered this word I came up with a new insight into giving; the bending that a giver does.

I have been reading the book The Bait of Satan by John Bevere.  I was struck by his words,  “just because you have been mistreated you do not have permission to hold onto an offense”.  Also, Bevere stated, “a pure heart is like gold, soft and pliable.”‭

According to Paul's instructions to Timothy, the Lord's servant should be “instructing his opponents with gentleness.  Perhaps God will grant them repentance leading them to the knowledge of the truth.  Then they may come to their senses and escape the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.”  2 Timothy 2:25-26 CSB

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God wants us to see the truth that forgiveness is something to give not to hold back.  Forgiveness is to be given, even if we feel we have been wronged.  In fact, even if we are correct in the fact that we have been mistreated, we need to  continue to love as Christ did and to forgive. 

Holding onto an offense creates a bitter person, and bitterness is a killer of love.

“I want to choose to and be a giver of love, not one who is looking to get love.”

This is a quote I heard during a Bible study I was in years ago.  Being a giver is so powerful. Especially when you are a giver of forgiveness.  I have to choose daily to bend and forgive.  When I do, I feel my heart opening up, and know I am becoming able to love others in a Christ-like way.